Many people think “Kegel exercises” are the cure for bladder leaks. Kegels—squeezing and lifting your pelvic‑floor muscles—can help if those muscles are weak. But often your pelvic floor is too tight, not too loose. In those cases, doing more Kegels can actually make leaks and discomfort worse.

Why Tight Muscles Cause Trouble

If your pelvic‑floor muscles are always tense, they never get a chance to relax. Stiff muscles can push on your bladder, creating a constant need to go. They also make it hard to fully empty your bladder, so you might dribble a little afterward. Tightness can even cause pain in your lower back, hips, or groin.

Signs Kegels Are Hurting More Than Helping

• You feel more urgent urges after doing Kegels.
• Your pelvic‑floor muscles feel sore or crampy.
• You still leak, even though you do Kegels every day.

If any of these sound familiar, it’s time to try something different.

Learning to Relax Your Pelvic Floor

1.Deep Belly Breaths

• Lie on your back with knees bent.
• Breathe in so your belly rises, breathe out and feel your pelvic floor soften.

2.Gentle Stretches

• Child’s pose or gentle lunges can loosen tight hips and glutes, which helps your pelvic floor relax.

3.Progressive Relaxation

• Tighten a muscle group (shoulders, belly, or pelvic floor) for 3 seconds, then let it go completely. Notice how relaxed it feels.

4.Hands‑On Help

• A trained therapist can gently release tight spots in your pelvic floor using safe, comfortable techniques.

Finding Balance
Healthy pelvic‑floor muscles know how to tighten when needed—and relax fully afterward. If you only focus on squeezing, you miss half of the story. A balanced program gives you both strength and softness, so your bladder can fill and empty normally.

If Kegels haven’t solved your leaks or if they make things worse, you don’t have to keep struggling. I can help you learn how to relax tight muscles, rebuild true strength, and feel confident again—no endless Kegels required.